David,
You're welcome to tell me to chill, but let me give you two absolutely outstanding examples of what I'm talking about. Once, I went to see/hear Mahler 9 conducted by Edo De Waart (S.F.). I sat next to this young yuppie couple that kept snuggling and giggling, as well as just plain-old talking. I actually told them they were ruining the entire experience for me. The audience was totally noisy during the softest passages. I was so bummed out - Mahler 9, of all pieces!! Today, John Kim has a pirate recording of that concert, and says that it's one of his best M9's. I couldn't tell, because the audience was so friggin' noisy, and that just ruined it for me. Years later, John Kim and I went to see Ozawa/Saito Kinen Orchestra do M9 at Davies Hall, and it was a wonderful experience - not only because it was a really great performance, but because the mostly Asian audience was absolutely dead silent. That made ALL the difference in the world. Example #2 . . .
There are basically two different versions of Bruckner 7. They're both nearly identical, except that one has a cymbal crash at the climax of the slow movement, and the other one doesn't. So, I go see the SFSO do Bruckner 7, and it's the version with the cymbal crash. Naturally, during the slow movement, I'm totally distracted by watching the cymbal player trying to keep count and place his cymbal crash in the right spot. Lo and behold, he got off count, stood there with the cymbals in his hand, and completely missed his entrance! Then, he very slowly sat back down in his chair, showing no expression at all. Probably the only people who noticed any of this, were other folks who were aware of this difference in the two versions - just like myself. Here, this clown gets paid nearly $100,000 a year - maybe more, based on seniority - and they can't hear the climax to the slow movement of B7? That's just incredible! I never got paid a dime for playing in the Redwood Symphony for over 10 years - in fact, I think they wanted to charge us dues - and I never once came close to making a major goof like that. You might find the following to be be amsuing:
Especially during Mahler symphonies (we played a lot of modern music in the Redwood Symphony), other percussionists would get ticked off at me because I wouldn't count my parts (we were often times covering several different written-out parts). I didn't need to - I knew how the pieces went. They would be covering several different parts as well, so they might ask me, "where are we?". I'd say, "I don't know", and they'd be really upset. I'd end up just cueing them to play the right instrument at the right time. Then one of them would try to tell me, "you have to count your part!"; and I'd say, "no I don't. I'm not getting paid for this, so as long as I get the job done, it's nobody's business how I do it". If it became a problem, I'd threatent to quit, and they'd back off. I never once missed a single entrance. This is why it bugs the daylights out of me, to see pro's miss entrances. It happens very rarely, as you know. But it does happen from time to time.
So, you're welcome to tell me to chill, but this sort of stuff truly drives me insane, and is why I just stay home with recordings for the most part.